My 3 Lies
What I wish I knew as a single Christian teen…I think most of these lies are from the enemy to keep us isolated and in the dark. Here are three of the one’s I bought into growing up before Dangerous Man…these lies were pretty damn good at keeping me in isolation, keeping me in shame, and keeping me in sin…
Lie #1: You are the only one who struggles with lust, and everyone will think you are a pervert, unholy failure if they knew what you did and watched. This is one of the most dangerous lies the enemy uses to keep Christian guys in shame. It keeps relationships surface, makes accountability feel like a court trial, and keeps guys putting up a “good Christian boy front.” I did my best to look good and hide my sin from my church friends. I was scared they would ever find out the truth. I kept my sin secret and made said a lot of Christian-ese things.
Lie #2: Their sin is worse than mine … so phew, I’m not really doing that bad. For me this was my sweet spot. I could always rationalize the sin I was in. He’s having sex … I just went to 2nd base. He’s hooking up with lots of chicks … I’m just sleeping with my girlfriend. I’ve just got L in my heart…but that guy went to a strip club (he is sooooo bad). He got busted looking at porn…I didn’t get caught (like somehow that made it less sinful). This type of lie made me think that because I wasn’t as bad, I could fight it on my own. I was really good at feeling proud about my “lesser sin”, but never ever really open enough to address it.
Lie #3: All my non-Christian friends are having so much fun with what the world has to offer about sex … I’m missing out. This seems to fly in contradiction to the above lies, but this is one the enemy used on me a lot. I played hockey through juniors and College. It was super easy for me to get envious to the stories of my friends and teammates about this girl at this party, or this great porn site, or this girl there are dating. Easy to buy into the world’s “marketing” of the satisfaction of all things lust and sex. Why this matters … I think the combination of these lies keep guys (like me) isolated from each other. It is a cycle of hiding our sin from our Christian brothers, judging each other (and hoping we are hiding well enough not to get judged), and sitting in envy of the world’s view of sex. So what is the truth …This is not a fight that is intended to be taken on alone.
We need to realize that we are in the fight TOGETHER. We are meant to realize that all lust is sin, but that Jesus died for this sin. We are all clean because of him. As brothers we come together to go against the isolation and shame. We come together to shed light on all the sin regardless of our perceived shame. We come together to remind each other of the truth that God’s holy sexuality is the best. It is a fight we are supposed to come together to fight in TRUTH…and go against the lies that keep us isolated from each other.
“Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.” James 5:16 NIV “People who conceal their sins will not prosper, but if they confess and turn from them, they will receive mercy.” Proverbs 28:13 NLT “Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.” Ecclesiastes 4:9-10